Reality bites!

Let me begin by giving you an insight to some facts of my life(may be its yours too!). I have been skinny, thin, not fat - what ever you may call it all my life. Fact is I am plain simple healthy(touch wood) so stop worrying about me! Friends, family (there are always exclusions) and pretty much everyone have always assumed that I just have to put on weight. Off late I have turned into a foodie too, so now even the more the world of "those people", vouch I will and should put on weight! Ever since I moved to the country where 68% of people are obese - statistics say so(!), it was a given for most of "those people", that I will grow "out" into this new person.

Not that I have anything against fat people, sorry if I gave anyone that impression, curvy is surely sexy - guess you have to be happy with what you have lol !
I just like to indulge in all the good things in life and still remain healthy. So my key to indulgence - moderation. I think this applies not only to food but to everything that life has to offer. Don't hate too much, love too much (if there is anything like that at all), drink too much, eat too much, say too much, think too much and the list goes on. So, going by this philosophy, I have always been able to eat what I want and not kill myself for it and I guess the icing on the cake has been that, I have always loved to exercise too!

This is not a post to brag about my slim self, sorry again if your thoughts go like "yeah bitch, stop bragging about it" - it has been about how little tolerance people have around you, when you are overweight they poke fun, if you are thin/slim they are jealous - I have had umpteen number of people tell me at my face, gosh why don't you grow fat and it always left me flabbergasted! It just got worse,once got married - since I guess it has almost become this societal or biological norm (I don't know)that you surely will pile on the pounds! I sometimes wonder, that if people put in the same amount of time and effort into bettering their own lives - this planet would be a better place to live.

Body image is something which makes the human race the most insecure or secure. As great Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see" (sarcastic!!!).This also reminds of the times before I was married,I am sure everyone relates to this; how the entire world "seems-to-be" worried about or playing the good old match-making trick and literally torturing you about your "unknown-big-day" - I have known friends who have been under the radar for this at really mean levels, and hell no its not fun at all. Once you have successfully jumped the hoops and slid through the loops and get married - you almost feel a sense of triumph over those wagging tongues,alas!Well, how mistaken you were? Let me tell you, specially the kinda of inter-religious wedding I had, I have heard some of the most harsh and horribly rude advice from people. So, the talking, taunting, comments will continue. And then when you realize "phew its been a year now and everyone is quiet" - then their come the talk of the new arrivals. So, basically the people around you the so-called society which I sometimes feel we are unfortunately part of, always have something to say,advice and gossip about your life.

I guess for me,my escape from all this has been two fold, for one I moved to country where literally no one really cares what you do or not do and people do mind their own business unless you are in show-business ;) Also, finally I have learnt to give a damn about what anyone thinks I do, or feels I should do, because I want to be responsible for shaping my life and yes sometimes I succeed and other times I fail - then I get up, brush it off and move on.

Off late, since I started off working as a freelancer, I feel I am a world of my own. I pat my back for my good work and criticize myself for time lost. I am my own boss, haha... feels nice to say that!

Basically, do what you want and let the world bitch about you if they want to - well remember you are important enough to be thought about and talked about !!

There is always a brighter side to everything in life....

Cheers

(Anywhere along the post felt if you felt I am referring to you, hell yeah I am!)